I have heard many people say that breastfeeding moms should think about the people around them who may be uncomfortable with seeing breastfeeding and that it’s just common decency to hide their breastfeeding in case it would upset someone. I have listed 8 reasons why your discomfort with breastfeeding is not our problem.
1.) I can’t control how the people around me will act therefore I don’t feel like I should be controlled either. If I were to ask a stranger to cover herself because her chewing with her mouth open grosses me out that would not go over too well. I don’t try to dictate how other people should eat, therefore no one gets to dictate how my baby eats.
2.) I’m a mother and the needs of my baby is all I concern myself with. I’m not consuming my mind with how I can make the way I breastfeed more enjoyable to the public as I’m not putting on a show. What is going through my head is ,”I hope I don’t leak through , I hope I will produce enough milk , & I want baby to be as comfortable as possible because I hope he will fall asleep before I get to the next store.” So you see there is no room for me to concern myself with your comfort.
3.) The law states a mother may breastfeed her baby wherever she is authorized to be. Your disapproval is not law therefore it’s not my problem.
4.) I’m not chasing anyone around singing, “My milkshake brings all the haters to the yard.” So I feel like if you have such a disgust over it you can simply not look or move somewhere else. Why should I be the one who has to move or cover when I’m not the one with the issue?
5.) Breastfeeding is the original baby food and it sustains the lives of tiny human beings. Why would I feel ashamed about that? Why should I feel the need to hide that? The real problem would be a baby going hungry and when my baby is hungry that is the only problem I’m worried about solving.
6.) I don’t consult or consider a complete strangers comfort with any other parental choice so why would I with how I should breastfeed?
7.) Here’s the thing, everyone has their own opinion on how they feel a mom should breastfeed so why am going to wrestle with a blanket when my baby and I hate it and there could possibly be an issue despite the fact I used a cover I didn’t even want to use in the first place. Yes, shocker even moms who cover still get harassed.
8. I’m a confident mom doing the best I possibly can. I’m proud to breastfeed in public , I’m proud I nourish my baby with my body , & I’m proud that I’m confident enough to not give a damn that you have a problem with it.