So last night on my Breastfeeding mama talk facebook page I had woman sharing their postpartum pics. I really don’t know what started it as I didn’t announce any picture theme. All I saw was positive post after positive post of woman who were proud of their bodies. It didn’t even dawn on me that woman who might not be so proud would be offended by it. I would think differently if they were adding some sarcastic text like, “I lost the weight after kids, what’s your excuse?” As that is a direct attack to someone else. But I would never have thought that woman simply proud of an achievement with whatever it may be would spark such an uproar, Since when did it become a crime to be happy for YOURSELF? Since when did being happy for YOURSELF mean that you are attacking someone who isn’t? I’m genuinely asking here as this is a learning process for me everyday. I’m someone who has had an empathetic nature all my life and with my empathy not only do I feel bad for people but I can also feel genuinely happy and proud for someone else. I’m able to sense their happiness, enthusiasm, and it’s as if I’m proud of myself. It’s hard to explain. Basically I’m sensitive and people around me effect me whether it’s a positive or a negative. So I guess in my excitement for someone else all I’m thinking about in the moment is how proud and happy I’am for them and wanting to shout it out with them, The thought that being happy for someone else would also mean I’m offending someone else in the process never occurred to me.
I never want anyone feeling bad about something. My goal with the support group is to provide a positive atmosphere and a safe place for woman to share a piece of themselves with whatever it may be. So while I’m there for woman who need to vent and moan I’m also very much there for woman who feel proud and are wanting to share it. People that have been following the page for awhile should already know this by now. I even typed up a mission statement trying to clarify any misunderstandings about what we are about and what are goals are. Since the number one thing I focus on in building confidence for woman of ANY SHAPE AND SIZE you can maybe see why I would be so thrilled to want to share their confidence on the page. Whether it’s to draw out other woman to post pics of themselves or even inspire woman to maybe get to a place one day where if they weren’t proud now maybe they could be in the future.
Breastfeeding mama talk supports woman of ALL race and weight we have no ONE standard that we go on as far as looks go. We know everybody is different and what may work for some may not work for others. For example, breastfeeding & weight loss is an ongoing debate and I don’t know why it is. As everyone is different which means different methods are needed for everyone to lose weight. What may work for some may not work for someone else. Which is why you won’t see our page promoting that breastfeeding is a for sure way to lose weight. It is however a for sure way to burn calories. But burning calories doesn’t always mean that you will lose weight.
So I want to know what your take is on this. Should a woman that is proud about their weight less not post about it or share weight loss before and after pics because it’s insensitive to woman who didn’t lose the weight they would have liked? I would think if anything that it would be inspiration. But again I learn something new everyday I get deeper into the support/advocacy world. I want to be as supportive of a person as I can be and I never thought that supporting one woman’s success or proud moment would at the same time be putting someone else down. So help me understand why that would be. How being happy for one persons accomplishment would automatically be a jab to someone else. Why does a negative even need to be involved? Why can’t we as woman STOP competing with each other and START empowering each other. That is what I’m about anyway. I get more of a natural high lifting someone up not putting someone down.
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Kristy (founder/creator of breastfeeding mama talk)